Some decisions are easier than others.
I recently read in an old magazine (Real Simple, February 2010) about a woman who once took five years to choose a set of curtains for her house, but married her husband after knowing him less than two weeks. Decades later, the husband is still a keeper…no word on the status of the drapes. Colors and patterns tend to go out of style, so I’m betting the curtains were replaced.
When I was about twelve years old, my mother took me to buy a much needed winter coat. We went to only one store and I didn’t see anything special. I looked at coats, and tried them on, feeling unimpressed and noncommittal. My mother stood around while I gazed at my own reflection. Finally, she gave me a time limit to decide. If I didn’t choose something in that time, we just wouldn’t buy a coat.
So, I chose a coat. It was a poor choice: a puffy gray knit that got fuzzballs and made me look like a linty marshmallow. I wore it for a while, until my vanity got the better of me, and then I decided I would rather be cold. Ultimately, it was waste of money.
I’m still not sure what lesson to take from the experience. A slow decision wasn’t working, and the quick decision didn’t turn out well either. The best lesson may be: only buy what you love. Otherwise, wear layers.
I feel an affinity with the woman who married quickly but couldn’t choose a window treatment for five years. I married fairly quickly, too, and became an instant parent of three ready-made children. Maybe I didn’t know what I was getting into, but I would happily do it all over again.
Today, we celebrate our 5th wedding anniversary.
I have several coats now, and thankfully, none of them make me look like a linty marshmallow… but it’s love that keeps me warm.